The first thing that matters is the way you talk to a transgender woman. Now I want to ask you a question. Are you aware that the pronouns are derogatory and insulting to transgender women? If you don't know the most basic facts about transgender people, it's best to get some information for yourself. Because some trans women are sensitive to pronouns that refer to them, if you accidentally break their boundaries, the two of you may not have a great trans date story. Therefore, it's best to use neutral, non-emotional or discriminatory terms that will make your potential transgender dating partner feel like they're not being treated unfairly.
Be honest with yourself! Many men who are attracted to transgender girls are so worried that the fact that they are attracted to transgender people has been leaked that they are afraid to let their colleagues or family know the truth and thus become be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Yes, it's a very common assumption that everyone has this kind of insecurity. Many men even doubt their sexuality because they are attracted to transgender women. If you're in this situation right now, the first thing you need to do is trust your choices. You have to understand that the world is truly diverse and that men who like trans girls are not gay and may simply be attracted to their femininity. As you begin to reinforce these perceptions, your feelings of insecurity are greatly diminished, and while this may take a lot of time, it can have a positive effect on your relationship with your lgbt dating partner.
Take the first step and accept that you like transgender people. Many men love trans women, but they never really dare try a real date with one. As acceptance of transgender people increases, most people understand that transgender people date. Even if you're in public with a transgender woman, it's not going to get too much attention. I think you lack that kind of courage right now. So I encourage you to have a real date with the transgender woman you like!